Have you engaged in a conversation with someone who says hypnobirthing didn’t work?
When I was first venturing out on my hypnobirthing journey, I distinctly remember being at a coffee morning and sharing the news that I was training as an instructor, having experienced two hypnobirths myself.
“Yeah, I did hypnobirthing it just didn’t work for me- no offense.” Was one of my replies.
“My friend did it and said it didn’t work either.” Was another.
Jump forward to this weekend and I had the pleasure of meeting one of my clients and her new born baby.
“I definitely used it- but I don’t think it worked at the end… although everyone kept saying how good my breathing was, I wasn’t sure I was hypnobirthing.”
I had to pause and ask her… “Instead of thinking about whether hypnobirthing ‘worked’, can I ask if hypnobirthing ‘helped’?”
“Oh absolutely!” She replied.
Hypnobirthing is not something that works or does not work. It is not a magic wand that is waved over you in a state of hypnosis that means you will have a specific type of birth. Hypnobirthing is not a single thing that you do or do not do. Hypnobirthing does not just simply ‘work’.
Hypnobirthing, when taught the Henley Hypnobirthing way, is a combination of tools, relaxation, knowledge and breathing than enables you to have a positive birth. It teaches you countless tools and techniques that you would use at different times or in different scenarios. Hypnobirthing gives you an education about what is physiologically happening to your body during labour and how an imbalance of hormones can negatively impact your ability to birth easily. Hypnobirthing re-teaches your subconscious that birth is safe and normal so you go into your labour feeling calm and relaxed- this is vital to enable they muscles of your uterus to contract without tension. Hypnobirthing empowers birth partners to be able to support and protect their partner during the birth of their baby. Hypnobirthing provides knowledge and information that allows you to take control of your birth, know what choices you have and enable a birth that is right for you, a birth that is right for your baby, a birth that is positive.
A positive birth- what is that? It’s a state of mind: it’s not defined by what happens during labour and birth but by how a woman feels about her baby’s birth. Hypnobirthing helps women to trust their instincts and ensure that their baby has the right birth on the day.
No, hypnobirthing doesn’t simply ‘work’: Hypnobirthing ‘helps’. Hypnobirthing ‘supports’. Hypnobirthing ‘empowers’. Hypnobirthing enables ‘control and choice’. Hypnobirthing ‘educates’.
So, next time you engage in a conversation with someone about hypnobirthing and they argue that it didn’t ‘work’ for them; ask them if what they learnt helped, educated or prepared them in a way that made them feel ready, excited and empowered about their baby’s birth. Because, if they can answer yes to any of that, then hypnobirthing did work, it did exactly what it says on the tin.
Hypnobirthing is not a type of birth, it is an education that supports a positive birth experience.